The April fool is me!

I apologize in advance for just a short note today. It has been a very disappointing day. Boris and Irina called to say they wanted to come over early and bring us to the market (although I didn’t ask to go) and they came at 9:00. Only when I asked, did the subject of court come up. I asked what happened when he called the judge back this week and the response was the same “she didn’t give any definite”. When I asked what that meant, he said, he goes back on Monday again as usual. My heart sunk and I found it difficult to even look at them at that point – let alone speak - and we shopped in silence. When we got back to the apt. Irina asked if I would like to take a walk and I declined. The only thing I wanted to do was come upstairs and cry. They helped me bring the groceries up since I had Skip to carry plus the stroller. They tried to exit quickly but before they did, I asked them if they sensed a problem with the judge. He said no. I asked if he still felt we’d get our court date in May and his response was a very disappointing “50/50”….I nearly died hearing that, because, knowing how he never wants to be the bearer of bad news, he likely meant no. I specifically asked if ANYONE got court dates in May and he said, as far as he knew, no. I asked them to leave, telling them I didn’t feel well. I then contacted one of the other families waiting for a date – who is also supposed to get a May court date. I was speechless when she told me that on Monday, after court, she received an email from CHSM saying the judge gave out only 3 dates in May and she got one – May 6. While I’m happy for them, I don’t understand the double talk from CHSM and Boris. Why have I been told the judge hasn’t given ANY dates when he knew that he got one. It makes no sense. Why didn’t CHSM call us personally and share this information since we were suddenly left without a May date they told us was ours?Getting my Comcast email here has been a nightmare but I finally got to it after almost 1 hour or trying. There were two emails from CHSM. One dated 24 March saying that Boris was pretty sure that 29 March would be when the judge gave court dates. This was the first time I heard that specific news. The other email, dated 29 March said the judge did give 3 court dates out TOTAL to all the agencies, and CHSM got one. It also said the judge is likely taking a vacation (usually a whole month between April and May. Something I feared would happen. She takes a month off and everyone just waits.. That confirmed everything I just heard from the other family and left me feeling totally betrayed. I cannot understand how I could be here, talking to these people daily and not know this. For the first time I feel like we will never bring Skip home and that we’re being strung along. Mike and I both called Irina and requested that both she and Boris come over asap so I could talk to them. Initially Boris said he couldn’t come tomorrow because he was not in Angarsk. After Mike’s call to Irina, I got a call back saying he would be here at 7:00 p.m. when he got back to Angarsk. It is now 9:10. They never came, they never called.I am so incredibly disappointed I can’t begin to describe it…

COMMENTS:

3 April 3004 – Diane Bacon:Judy,I'm so sorry. I can imagine your sadness and disappointment...esp­ecially since I vividly can picture you in the apartment. I had heard via the Irkutsk group that dates were hard to come by right now. I think because of Easter and her vacation. It seems to me that the dates should be able to be scheduled out for at least a few months. It would be so much more helpful to waiting parents if they at least knew when they would return. This makes it almost impossible to recommend this region to anyone. I'm glad that someone from our agency got a date at least. It shows that Boris isn't being punished. The next date he gets should be yours! I will hope and pray that he is successful on Monday. You will get your little boy home....Thinking of you,Diane